Maybe you could start learning some martial arts ? It might seem like an agressive thing to do, but in fact, a man who can patiently keep on deflecting blows will often defuse a fight without having to harm the attacker.
I've watched a guy block punches from a furious drunk for about twenty minutes, and gradually the drunk got tired and bored, and just wandered off.
The thing is, the other guy could have put the drunk on the ground at any time, but he genuinely didn't want to hurt him, so he just wore him down gradually.
Taekwondo does have it's uses.
5lip5tr3am3r
There are always people who are looking for a fight no matter what you do.
You can try talking them down, but they ignore your efforts, you can try walking away, but they follow you. There will always be someone trying to overcompensate, or trying to prove something to themselves.
The ugly truth is - sometimes you have to loosen a guy's teeth to set him straight.
Pacifism is an admirable philosophy, but it is only effective when dealing with reasonable people. Unfortunately we live in a sick world populated by some seriously unreasonable people who refuse to play by the rules.
beastkid7
Yeah, I know. That wasn't the situation here though -witch is why I'm kinda angry at myself.
I'm usually able to defuse a situation by contrasting my mood to theres to make them sorta think about what there doing. But some times people take it as sarcasm. Even worse.
But my dad knows a little of the "Arts". And there was a guy a while back at where he used to work, big guy, who my dad could tell just wanted to fight him for what ever reason. (like you said) One day he tried to while the manager was gone, my dads not a big guy. But my dad got him into a hold where he had his air passage cut off. He couldn't breath. My dad didn't want to let go of him cause he would beat the living Ba'jezus outa him. But the dude couldn't breath.
Luckly the manager came back. He didn't do anything cause ma dad was a skinny dude ...it was pretty unexpected I guess. The guy left him alone after that. But madad says its scary to know lethal stuff because if you know it, yer gonna use it.